
We were in a cozy, seemingly familiar apartment, it was early night maybe 8ish..I was standing in the kitchen talking with someone and heard, "Hi Mom..." . I turned and there he was. Maybe 4 or 5. Platinum blond hair, huge brown eyes. In my dream, I knew something was different. I knew that in reality, he is really 15...
That this time in this kitchen was somehow...a
gift.I said, "Hey..." and picked him up. This one who was carried everywhere til he was 5. He put his small arms around my neck, so casually. All was completely normal for him. This was no dream. Just a regular day.
We sat on a kitchen chair, him on my lap, facing me. I rubbed his hair, looked into those huge eyes filled with open love. Ran my hands along his small arms casually dangling at his side. We talked about his day...about getting ready for bed. I kissed his forehead, pulled him close so his head was on my chest, my nose buried in his hair, my arms wrapped around his back and we just sat there. I breathed him in and was completely
content. He slowly sat up and looked at me, smiling...
Then I heard small, familiar voices "Maammmaaa!"...but, I didn't want to wake up. I didn't want to leave him. I struggled to stay there but, in a wink he was gone and I was in our home, in my bed with two little girls, calling for me. I opened my eyes and was instantly buried by emotion.
Funny thing is, I don't pine for the past. I think I have done pretty well with accepting that my babies are growing and have watched in amazement, gratitude and at times, a little anxiety as they have unfolded into their beings. I believe this is why this dream was such a shock to me... I hadn't realized how much I would give to have one of those days again. Just
minutes of a time when my oldest was 4 or 5. Honestly, its not like we didn't have time when he was younger. This is not a feeling of regrets, of wishing I had done anything differently The emotions that came after this dream, I think are the opposite, because I had so much time to love, read, talk and be content...after having a sample of that again, I wanted more. I wanted that time we had back.
Part of me knows that what I should do this instant is run to every one of my children, scoop them up and just love them. Rub their soft hair, kiss their heads and be completely content. And I will this day as I have before and as I will for many tomorrows. Yet, even after having experienced this dream, I understand that while I may intellectually understand that these days and moments are heart wrenchingly fleeting, I won't fully understand until years later just how precious they are.
Still, I feel that this is how it should be...otherwise, how could we reasonably function, really? When we are in these moments that we'll later treasure, yearn for at times, we can have no idea of just how intense the longing for these ordinary moments may be. After all, if we did, we would sit on the floor and ogle our children for hours, don't you think?
I am sure that I am not doing justice in any way to what this dream gave me. It was as I said, a gift and just like those moments I lived with my boy in reality, this dream will fade in time and become so much of the flotsam and jetsam of our days... And all is how it should be...still, I am left in awe and gratitude for those moments so full of ordinary beauty.